I have a male friend who I frequently speak with about dating issues/my love life. Often, in various contexts, he makes reference to how white women are somehow sought after more than any other. Or how they tend to have the upper hand in relationships, especially when they're with non-white men..
Hang in there.....It's his loss!!!!!.
Is this the same girl from your other threads?.
So many pretty girls- so little time. She is adorable!.
But, like I said before here are some steps you can take to help you overcome this (I'm teaching myself now to do this):.
ouch... now I feel even more like crap... nothing like knowing you were used and throw out like next day's trash... even trash gets escorted out the door and knows it when it leaves....
Both are lovely.
At the bottom of all this, I think you are right to look into whether or not you are compatible in the first place. 4+ years is a long time to be with someone, especially at this age when people are changing so much and you are becoming the person you will be for the rest of your life. All the change you and her are experiencing simulatneously is normal, we all go through this self-realization-coming-of-age type deal in our early 20s. The problem here though, is that neither of you are supporting the other in your future goals. You're growing apart from each other as individuals and I think this realization of how different you are and the fact that it isn't working anymore, is the part that frustrates you. Ultimately, you know that deep down, there is a very real possibility that this girl who you have loved for the last few years may not be 'the one' for you, in the way that you had previously thought she could be, and that's why it scares you. It's very normal and "ok" to think this way, as you are only looking out for the best for both of you, even if that means that you are better off with other people..