My girl and I have not been getting along lately. We have been going out for 1 yr and 4 months. I am 19 and she is 18. We have had a lot of problems due to her immaturity I believe. I feel sometimes that she has never really matured and is still acting sometimes like she is 14. When we have problems, she just wants to get off the phone and will bad mouth me until i give in. Some of the things she does is so obvious that it is her prolonging the bad situation and she just makes it worse by acting more childish and throwing "fits" until I get SO frustrated and wish I was dead at the moment so I wouldnt have to put up with it. I just CAN'T understand why she just cant work with me to not argue so much and to get them over with if we do. Its almost like she likes to keep the arguments going. I honestly believe that about 90% of arguments are due to her behavior and how she acts so clueless sometimes. I am not the only one that notices this, and my friends (and also hers) say I dont deserve being treated like this. The problem though is that I LOVE her and we can have some very nice times together. I am also a person that has a hard time with change, so sometimes I think that is it. I would appreciate everyones opinion, no matter how harsh. I get real depressed, and its just so terrible I think how she acts like this, but I love her and want everything to work out..
Unless you confront this early! It will be too late if you marry her and start having kids with her...Then your in a world of a mess!.
I personally find insecure people very off-putting and wouldn't put up with their silly demands as I do not need them to sign off a permission slip to say what I can or can't do. I think they need to sort themselves out and not expect you to tiptoe around their own insecurities, especially when you haven't given them a reason to be. I think your philosophy sounds fair but I think it's good to have time away from your GF/BF and not spend every waking minute with them..
Did you mean phat, because this girl is smokin hot..
Before you either date from your parents' house without a decent job or going to further college,.
Anyway, I wouldn't let this ruin my happiness because I think you could make some progress with it and enjoy your woman better!.